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Snippet of GAYBCD: Ep. 19: Happily Ever Afters

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Hosts Farhad and Sunetro talk about the idea of Happily Ever After that has been passed down since childhood through fairy tales. Does it exist? Is it dependent on another person? Is marriage the ultimate end of 'Happily Ever After'?
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Hosts Farhad and Sunetro talk about the idea of Happily Ever After that has been passed down since childhood through fairy tales. Does it exist? Is it dependent on another person? Is marriage the ultimate end of 'Happily Ever After'?
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speaking of boxes. What? What do you feel about marriage as an institution? Uh uh, because again it z the most common like, like, you know, common version off a happily, uh, considered. I'm very open to it. Let's say you are very open to it if again if it's something that anything that will cause whoever I'm getting married to if it causes them happiness, e will do it. And I know how that sounds. That means like, I will only do it because someone else wants it. Even I do believe it, right? I do want something really and substantial and something, you know materializes out off. If that's the right word out off all this work, our celebration or whatever we are working towards, I get all of that. And in that sense, I'm open to marriage. But unfortunately, my parents were social rights in the early nineties and we had, like, hundreds of Osho books in my house in miles, and I read too much about marriages and his ideas and notions of marriage to for me to not believe in it as an institution where suddenly you both are in this ring and you're bound to me, and now you can this I don't want that kind of a marriage. But if it's something that is a reflection or a celebration off something I have made for myself using another person, and they have made using me with them with me in their life, then I'm more than happy to like I just can't be on a beach, though I can't stand stays in your e I've I don't believe and this is purely a shiny throw things like and it's a shoe metro on the 2nd, 3rd, 3rd of February, like we're recording on the probe but machine Metro in 2020 February. Thing where I'm saying, I don't think marriage is for me, but I do feel like everyone's entitled to it. And secondly, I do feel like I, um, what I don't like about marriages. It's an institution again. I'm sure a lot of people have heard this. It's an institution that that that was crafted for, you know, straight people, and I feel like we need our own version of the marriage like a civil union and stuff like that, and I'm more conducive to that. But having said that, I'm not militant about these thoughts. I'm very a big shit like, What's the big deal? What's the worst that can happen? Is that changing me? Really? So I think I keep questioning my my views on this constant because there was a point of time when I didn't even believe in, like civil unions for myself. Like for me, it was like, stay detached enough state attached enough on by now, I'm just like, What's the big deal? Yeah, like Deacon, it's pragmatic. Like you have something on people for, like property. I don't know. Yeah, that's the thing. I don't know the legal side of it because a lot of exciting the organization. I don't tell that I know there's so much struggle for gay marriage, equality around the world, right? And so my knowledge off the entire not a debate but off the entire topic is limited to like, oh, people being okay to me. But I have no idea about my own finances. So I know there is that whole anger also why marriage is important. Like legalizing Because I guess, like tomorrow, if I die, I want my love of e. I mean, sometimes of money I want him to, like, live an amazing life. You know what I mean? So I don't know that side of it. Uh, so I don't think about it, but only think again. Excited? Sure. But if the question is right now about I look at my open to getting married, it's just I feel like I'm in the other corner right now where I have to, like, first, dismantle and undo all of this. Working this giant fortress, she watches style fortress that have been around me nor any regular fortress. But, like, you know, for for me toe marriage seems like the other end of the spectrum. You can interview something a lot of times. A lot of my friends who are like, who had this anxiety, which is a very common anxiety in the community, which is I will die alone, right? I've asked them. I started going the next step and I was like, Why is it such a fear for you? And you know, it's surprisingly all of them said that. What if I fell down some day and I broke something and there was no one toe this? Help me up, you know, like literally. Physically. I fell down in this, so I asked them. Okay. Why is that one thing? And I saw, like, 56 people have told me this is this exact example where they don't want to fall down and find out. So I said, Has that ever happened to anyone in your life? And more often than not, there is an uncle. There is an art. There is someone who that happened toe and suddenly in their head. It's like, Oh, my God, I am also gonna be that person where I need So where am I? Go?
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