"The Happiness Lab" guest Tara Brach describes how her four-part meditation practice RAIN (Recognize, Allow, Investigate, Nurture) works and why she uses it before making any big decisions.
Upload Date: Mar 02, 2021
"The Happiness Lab" guest Tara Brach describes how her four-part meditation practice RAIN (Recognize, Allow, Investigate, Nurture) works and why she uses it before making any big decisions. In this snippet, Brach revisits an old memory and explains the way in which she applied RAIN and why doing so made a massive impact on the last few years she had with her late mother.
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