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Invisible Rules

From Audio: Coach Aden Nepom on Communicating More Effectively: The ROI Online Podcast Ep. 103

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Coach Aden Nepom and Steve Brown talks about invisible rules and how it affects businesses and their employees.
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Coach Aden Nepom and Steve Brown talks about invisible rules and how it affects businesses and their employees.
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happening. The other thing I want to mention is that there are a lot of things that we take for granted in terms of workplace behavior that we think are norms that aren't necessarily written in stone and and on your feet. We call those invisible rules and I think they're worth noticing. There are things that are, um, absolutely required for society to function like an invisible rule is that we're all going to put pants on when we meet in person. But, um, there, you know, and also some states have laws about that, but But in the workplace, there are invisible rules around. Um, if somebody has rejected your idea that you're gonna that you're going to fight for it and now you're going to spend all your time fighting for it rather than this idea that maybe if that idea has been rejected, it's okay to listen to the ideas that are gaining steam and just add to that, um, or the reverse might be true. Maybe your idea, um, does deserve a little bit of attention. But there's an invisible rule that says you can't say, Hey, wait a minute. You've discounted my idea. Let's take a moment and just explore it for a time limit. You know, like, let's have 30 seconds, and then you can reject my idea. So this idea that a fight has to be long this idea that, uh, you know, collaboration has to be painful. This there's all these things that are invisible rules that you've made up in your head basically, um, with the help of your peers. And it's worth examining those, uh, to see what you is worth keeping. Some of them are absolutely worth keeping. And what's worth rewriting? You know, those invisibles rules, they can penalize you socially if you don't follow them or you violate them. And yet they're unwritten, but they sure exist, and you sure can pay the penalty for violating them. Well, so that's interesting. So yes and no, both things are true. Um, it depends on what invisible rule we're talking about. Um, one of the things that has showed up in trainings with teams often is not the same rules. I'm trying to think of a really specific example. Um, but we'll, uh, get on your feet will sometimes run people through, um, what we call storyline to sort of get a sense of what they're process is from point A to point B on a project and what This is one of those places where invisible rules really shows up, because what will happen is what we're representing are the different parts of your process physically. So someone's got to stand up and say Okay, and then X happens. And then they're going to hold the physical line for where that happens, and then the next person is going to add a piece of the process. And what inevitably shows up is person A. Thanks X shows up here, but Person B is like That's not when that happens, that's supposed to happen way down here. And that's where invisible rules show up. Like for example, Um, check your assumptions. You're not allowed to check your assumptions, or you shouldn't ask for help. Those types of invisible rules are great to break. I call those stupid taxes. They're expensive taxes you pay like invisible, and they're just stupid. You imagine the employees that Okay, this is your you're getting ready to go to work the first day at your new job and in your head, you're going I'm going to be the best employee. I'm going to really make the best of this opportunity. I'm going to do great. And so you go in. And so what do you do? Your first? You're learning the lingo. You're learning the processes you like. You talked about your learning, the invisible rules and the first invisible rule. You run into that stupid. That doesn't make any sense. You think to yourself. Well, that's stupid. Why did Oh, I'm sorry. I was going to be a good employee. I don't want to say that. So you just accept it. But over time it wears you down and it kills your motivation. And it's like, How do you How do you want? Get these in open. Let's address them. Let's talk about them. Let's resolve this so that the culture becomes healthy and happy. The employees, like don't run into stupid taxes that are expensive
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