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It’s All Education! Podcast
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Listen to Stacey discuss the the incident in New Jersey where strangers showed compassion to a 14 year old who gave up her new board baby in a restaurant.
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Listen to Stacey discuss the the incident in New Jersey where strangers showed compassion to a 14 year old who gave up her new board baby in a restaurant.
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you know? Yeah, I I agree. I I feel like this story touched me, which is why I said okay for my first room. I had no idea what I was going to do for my first room on green room. But this for me based on my platform, it's all education and I talk about the human experience being our classroom and life is our teacher. So even in this particular situation there are so many lessons to be learned here. And the greatest lesson of all for me is the humanity in it, all the humanity and one person feeling like they could trust another with something as precious as a life and then the humanity and the fact that she's not going to face charges because like you said, we don't know her backstory, we don't know what's going on. And then just the generosity of spirit knowing that this child will be adopted and hopefully we, we can all pray that the child is adopted into a loving caring home and and will forever have a beautiful life going forward. But just the fact that everyone came together in this particular incident to make sure that the most important thing, which is the preservation of human life was accomplished. I think that speaks beautifully to our humanity as a people. What do you think? I definitely think it speaks volumes because like you said, the whole trust in someone like a baby or just anybody's life, like that's huge to just give that the baby that's used to just give that responsibility off to someone. But I love that the people wanted to also ask to be the godparents because that just shows that they don't know that baby, but they cared so much they deeply wanted to know. And sometimes that's hard to find in this world. It really, really is that sad to say, but it can be very, very hard to find. So I'm I feel like it's a powerful and crazy story, it's just, wow, I don't know, I'm speechless, but just just by the fact that you pointed out that they wanted to be the godparents, I'm encouraged and my heart is full, I'm actually happy, you know, because this could have been a tragic story, you know, I I come from being in Tennessee near a you know, it's a it's a college town, there are a lot of colleges and universities and I've heard horror stories of, you know, students in the dorms, having a baby in the dorm and putting it in a dumpster, you know what I'm saying, A baby that was alive could have survived, was put in the dumpster and did not survive, you know? So this could have gone so many different ways and just, just the, like, like, like we said the overall caring and loving and and the compassion that was extended to a stranger Because the woman is the 14 year old girl is a stranger, the woman is a stranger, the man is a stranger and they're all strangers to this child but they will be strangers no more. Just simply because of what connection and compassion and isn't that something we talk about on this app when we talk about how we are using social audio and all these social media, you know people are using them for different purposes and then you have people like me who come on these platforms and I come on them solely for the purpose of connection. You know what do you think about that Alex? I mean that we are able to use Green room to have that connection to have a deeper connection with each other. I believe it's powerful, not even green room but dressed are like social audio, clubhouse, Green room. I know some people use fan base facebook is going to be coming out. I feel like there is just it's it's powerful and I've actually met some of my close, I call them close friends, my best friends from clubhouse or I met a couple of new people on here that I've actually been chatting with every day, like every day I've been building these relationships with a couple of different people and I feel like it's so powerful that we can get to know some people so much just through social media. I know before there was like facebook instagram linkedin, but I feel like being able to actually hear somebody's voice is different. First reading a post or seeing a pulse, like you can actually hear their tone, you can tell by the voice. Do they really care? Do they sound sincere? You can go so far cues because you're growing your network as well, you're growing your audience and meeting people all over the world. It's just so, so powerful. But yeah, I I agree. I've I've been in in these rooms and on these social audio apps and I have developed what I hope are going to be long lasting friendships with some really amazing, awesome people that I wouldn't have had an opportunity to meet any other way. And so I'm like, eternally grateful because I I'm a people person, I love connection and I love being connected to people. And I'm also, I guess you could say emotional or I don't know if there's another word because emotional tends to have a negative connotation. I'm more so a person that enjoys that connection, the relationship between myself and others. I enjoyed them getting to know me and I enjoy getting to know them. You know, you know, some people don't want to get invested. Some people, you know, don't. Their friendships and relationships are very surface and and they have a certain amount of people that they let into that sphere of them. I'm not really like that. Like, you know, if you want to be in that sphere and as long as you're not bringing any negativity with you, you can be in that sphere as far as I'm concerned for me, because I focus more on trying to be a friend more so than trying to make friends, if that makes sense. Because to me, when you, when you go about trying to make friends, then you can create a relationship that's not here we go with one of those words I don't like from clubhouse but authentic. It's not natural, it's not authentic. That's why I just go into every situation, being myself and allowing myself to be someone's friend. You know, that, that that's a huge and and that's kind of what this 14 year old did and what the couple did by accepting the child, you know, because you know, I in my mind, I can remember times when I had offered, when I had my first child, I was super excited and you know, I couldn't wait to show her off to my family and I went to put her in someone's arms who did not want to receive her. And immediately I didn't even realize how hurt, how hurt I would have been from something like that until it happened. And even just in that moment, you know, it was a quick little moment. They really didn't mean to do it, they were just saying you know the baby was brand new. So the baby they said the baby was too fresh and too little too fragile, they didn't want to hold her but you know it wasn't so much, they didn't love her, didn't love me. They just they were kind of freaked out because she was a little tiny a little on the skinny side. Um So they immediately kind of like no no no you know but immediately for me there was this feeling of rejection um So I can imagine that in order for that girl to turn and give that child to them to that lady that she put that baby in that lady's arms. The fact that the lady's arms were welcoming and took the child that says a lot in and of itself to right. Yeah. I couldn't I don't know like I've never really had to like hand my child off to people are like, I don't know, I don't just don't have a lot of people around my chosen like that. But I could imagine like if I did hand them off and they were around and they felt uncomfortable or just like made faces and moved away. I don't know how I would react. I think I'd be a little angry. He's like, you don't want to be around my child and I don't want to hold my child. I don't know, I don't know. But my immediate reaction, my immediate reaction was like that and then I then I was listening to what they were saying and I was like, oh, and then I I was able to soothe their fears. I mean, they didn't want to drop my baby, everybody felt like all this is, you know, they wait, everybody kind of in my family waiting for a long time for me to have a child. I was kind of like um in the bible, I was kind of like Abraham and Sarah, you know, kind of old by the time I had my first child. So so everybody was like, oh this is the golden child. So you know, the person that I was handing my child off to I think was my cousin was just like, oh no, you know, I don't want to drop her, she's so tiny. I was like, oh it's okay, let me show you how to hold her, you know? But my first reaction was like, like you don't want to hold my baby. You know? And you know, I kind of quickly, you know, gather my thoughts and I was like, oh, you know, once I listened to what they were saying, it was just their fear of not knowing how to hold the baby and not not knowing how to do it right. You know, so once I, you know, quelled their fears and, and you know, kind of showed them how to hold the baby and then gently placed the baby in their arms. They were fine. But I could just imagine, you know, this situation that happened with the teenager because, you know, in all essence, she put the baby in the lady's arms and jet. It like she bolted. But you know, when the police got there, they said she was still in the area. So, you know, it wasn't like, you know, I don't know the details. I don't know if she was on drugs or anything. It doesn't seem like if she stayed in the area, you know, um I think, you know, any number of things could have happened that made this happen, but it was just a shocking story to me when it popped up on my phone and I thought I'm gonna open my first room and we're just going to chat about this because in real life, if this had happened to me, which it has happened to me several times, as far as being left with a child, it wasn't mine, you know, I know what the laws are. Okay. Are you up? Yeah, I did it. This is my first time terra, congratulations on your first room and hey, I'm doing great. I've been kind of just like what Alex, Just go, what alexander did I say you open your room? I was like, let me come support Stacy, how are you doing today? Thank you sweetheart. I appreciate it. I am awesome. And look, I I was wondering what my first room would be. I really didn't know what that was going to be because you can see that my podcast is called. It's all education. And I've told people before that I believe that everything on the human and the human experience and on that journey is our classroom and life is our teacher. So when this popped up on my own, I thought boy, this was meant for me to talk about because I've had so many situations in my life where I've been um quote unquote, not left with a child, but gifted and blessed to help someone with the rearing of their child, whether they were present and they remain present or not. So for me this hit home and I thought, wow, you know, I probably today, I know there are laws, you know, back in the day when these things happen to me, the laws were a bit different and you know, you could you could even potentially adopt some child that somebody left with you, you know, if you have to go through the process, but today, I know, you know, I would have to definitely take that child to the authorities, but I know how quickly I can bond with individuals with people, especially with Children. I know how quickly I could form a bond. So in this particular circumstance, terra have you heard about this story? It happened about a month ago and I think I may 21st about a 14 year old going into a Jersey City restaurant and leaving a baby with a couple that was having like, no, I actually haven't. Well I'm gonna rewind it just a bit Alex, I don't know if you can stay with me because I know you've already heard it but I'm gonna rewind the video just a bit and play a little bit of the story and I hope you guys can hear it. So terra you can get up to speed with it. Okay? So the police in here, a woman comes in, here's my friend baby as we're having lunch and then runs out. Yo can you believe this? Okay? Or the police is here. Uh No he's gonna come in, he's gonna come and calm down. He comes in now I stopped it because there's another report that that report was coming from something called Story Full. But there's a no I know you guys have probably heard of the show now this now this has actually posted some um security camera footage that may give a little bit more detail about what happened in a few minutes before this particular video started. Okay, it looks like they're not gonna give audio. I was hoping they were going to give some audio. They're just giving only the video footage. It doesn't look like they're going to give audio. But wow, can I just say wow guys, I was gonna PTR and show you guys the baby in case you didn't see it. But Tara, while I'm waiting to do that, tell me what you think about this story. So my mind kind of goes to different ways with it because you know, I sympathize for the mother and you know what, she might have been going through the things that was going through her head as far as not being able to take care of her child or anything. You know whatever her circumstances where I sympathize with her and then for her to give it to someone that she you know, things will take care of her, her baby the proper way that you know, for whatever reason I sympathize with them too because even though they just you know, got the baby, you can hear the love and compassion in her voice and to me that is everything. And you know what's the best outcome for the baby. But you know, we don't know how many times things like this happen because it's not documented, but I'm pretty sure this is not the like you said with your situation, but I bet something like this happened so many times to people and they're just, you know, I hope that everything is for the baby's sake, wherever it happens is okay. But I I don't know, it's just so many thoughts going through my head right now, just hearing this and it's just it's crazy. It's like a wow factor to me. I guess. That's why I'm kind of all over the place. I get it. I get it, because I'm just, that's why I had to open the room. It was like, it was like, okay, this has to be my first room. If nobody comes in, I'm going to have an all alone commentary about this one because it just struck so close to home for me. And then my daughter Was another reason why I opened the room because my daughter is for 14. Okay, daddy at home in a major way. And my daughter said, oh my God, mom, like, why do you think she did that? And she was immediately from the point of, you know, blaming the 14 year old, I said, but wait a minute, you don't know the backstory. There are Children, young girls who are abducted, involved in sex trafficking. You know, we don't know, she could have been raped or molested by her father. This could be her father's child. She could have been, you know, kidnapped, she could have been held in captivity and this was her way to get her child free. We I mean, there are so many different parameters that could, you know, lead to why she did this. So because we don't know that you kind of have to take it from where it is and you kind of almost have to step back and rather than coming from a place of trying to vilify or trying to blame or trying to place blame or trying to find a reason why somebody has to be wrong. How about the fact that there's such humanity and compassion in the fact that someone cared enough To show caring, because it's the story says a little bit that when the 14 year old came into the restaurant, she came in and went up to the counter and said she had found a baby, that's what her words were. And somehow the couple that you know in CPR or something like that. So she noticed that the baby probably needed some oxygen. Now we're talking about a newborn baby that was most likely born minutes, two hours prior to this, because in the video, when you see the actual footage from the guy who started filming his girlfriend, now they're they're not a couple couple, they're just you know, they're dating apparently and this is his girlfriend. When he was doing the footage, you could see the hair was still wet. I remember what my daughter looked like when she was first born and and that looks you know eerily similar, you know, and um the lady told her that the baby needed oxygen and when she said that, apparently that's when the teen, I guess maybe she realized or maybe she felt comfortable at that point, she gave her the baby and then left. So I'm still in the wow factor. The fact, you know, I can't, I think I was all right, 24, when I had my my daughter and just thinking 14 years old, like what I was doing when I was 14 and how my life could be impacted with a child at that young age. You know, you never know, like you said, you never know why or what caused it. And I'm trying to think how I would feel like being her, her mother, being a child's mother and having to do that. Like I can't even wrap my head around that part. Um you know, to even get, get to the whole situation. I just I feel I feel for this young girl I really do. I feel for the young girl and that's I think that's wrong. Yeah me too Alex. I just saw the chat. I'm doing a lot over here trying to to get footage on this story. But yes baby if you can't stay I understand thank you so much for coming in with me. 1111 lock kisses and big hugs to you. I appreciate you so much for stopping in with me. So if you need to pop out you go ahead and do so terra I want to say that I saw the write up about this after the fact and they said that the baby is going to be put up for adoption. So then you just brought up a very valid point Where are the parents of this 14 year old? I can't imagine that. Okay we're talking about I have a 14 year old daughter. I can't imagine number one that she would be pregnant at 14 but number two I couldn't imagine that she would be pregnant and then do something with that child and I would have no say just the thought of that. You know what I'm saying? Like where the parents like clearly she does not have parents that would be involved because this child is being put up for adoption because nobody would be putting up my grandchild for adoption under any circumstances. You know that's just me. But yeah I mean that begs the question. If they if they already are saying that the child is being is being adopted then that basically tells us That that 14 year old has no support system because there was no one there for her to say look I got the baby, I'll take the baby for you because now it's got to be adopted or you know what Stacy what if she ran away because she was pregnant? You never know, you know what I'm saying? You you you never know like you said it's so many different like what if that you never know why she did it or her parents might not even know, you know I don't I'm just I feel so bad for the whole situation, I feel bad for her and the baby um and just like I just feel you know I can't get over that part, I don't know why it's just I'm so full, I was telling Alex that I'm actually so full by the story because for me rather than finding you know the sadness and the story I'm full by the joy at the end of the story. The joy that's in the story, the love that's in the story, the compassion that's in the story. Because at the end of the day, human beings came together to do what was right for another young human life. You know, everybody essentially came together to help this baby. And if if everyone had just decided to to mind their own business or stay out of it or this, this baby could not be here, the baby could not have survived this, you know, ordeal and and the fact that from from the police officers got to give them their kudos, they came in, you know, they didn't just kind of bum rushed the lady that was holding the child because I'm gonna tell you, I I bond easily and quickly and I hate that I do that on one hand because it it can be misused by others. But I I don't worry about that. I let other powers take care of vets for me. I just approach life and things from a point of I'm going to be me and I am a lover, I love people so I'm going to come at you with as much love as I possibly can and just who I am. And it's up to you whether you choose to want to love me back. I'm not gonna force you. But you know if you come this way you're gonna get some love coming over here. So if you don't want love don't come over this way because you're gonna get some love. So I could I could just imagine that that couple was sitting there exuding that type of energy which made it okay or made that young lady feel like I can do this.
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