you tell us a little bit more about your journey into sex positivity and when you're like, how you found your way into the sex space in particular, um I was queer, I was in a wheelchair and I wanted to get my dick sucked and no one is, you know, when it's helping me with that, so what if I talk about it or maybe somebody will want to sleep with me and like, but that wasn't the only reason obviously, but like, like, like it was a big driving force is like, I want to be included here and I found being in the gay community as a disabled person who very visibly disabled to um people didn't give me a second look because of my disability. They thought all these things about me that weren't true or these misconceptions about being disabled and I was like, well I have this platform and I have all these things I want to say, so why don't I just, And I started emailing huffpost and out dot com and all these queer magazines, think can I share my story with you? Um and they would say, oh, we've never had anybody want to do that before. So I I was able to get my foot in the door and do some blogging and do some like light, you know, the first article I ever wrote, I think was like the five reasons why having sex, that person is the best sex you've ever had or something really like clickbaiting at first, but it was a way to get in the door and people to notice that like you we can have these discussions and then the more and more I started doing it, I realized that like, oh, there's a whole community here are people that are then that need this kind of conversation totally. What do you think are some of the biggest misconceptions people have about having sex with someone who has a disability? I mean the biggest one is that we are non sexual or we are because we are disabled, we are inherently a sexual. Now there are people who with disabilities are totally a sexual, you who, you know who that is their identity, that's how they identify and they're not into sex. That's fine. But to assume that because we're disabled, we can't have sex just able ism on it. Like that's just like yeah, and then, I mean the next biggest one is that my, my genitals don't work because I'm just saying, well, which I feel is also really the ridiculous because even if I couldn't get an erection and I couldn't get hard and I didn't want to get hard, like that doesn't mean I'm not enjoying what's happening and exactly to place everything on this one body part is really unfair. Uh yeah, we talk about that a lot in, in porn too, you know, it's like placing all of the importance just on like um uh end product or specific standards like very specific um standards of what sex is and what sex looks like. You know, we talk about what this like what sex acts actually are and how limiting it is to be like, it's exactly this kind of penetration results in this prioritizes the pleasure of one very specific demographic. It is just penetration and that's it. Yeah. Nothing else. It's all about the money shot, which we all know is not the truth. The whole experience. Yeah, kissing. It's intimacy. It's everything else. Yeah. I want to know what's on that list for you. Like click bait, Clickbait the list of like the reasons why disability, sex is gonna be the best sex I ever had and I have guesses, but if you want to toss that a Couple, I mean I I literally wrote this like 10 years ago, I have no idea what I said, but like I'm sure it was like something like, you know, the positions are different and that's what they're awesome. Something like communication is the most important thing. Something like, you know, I'm sure it's something like my dick does work And here's why I'm great because that was 10 years ago. Like now my now my views have changed a bit where I would never say like like dick works and it's the best. Like now it would be something like my body is really hot because of disability and here's why like, so it was giving people a glimpse of like this disabled person can still be attractive or it was attractive. Are always was attractive, not still be like what? You know, was attractive. So I think, you know, it was away and I was speaking to when I wrote that article, I was speaking mostly to like gay, non stable men being like, you can, you can fuck me, I'm I'm viable for you here I am. Like I'm available, let me know.