continuing our conversation this evening with author and a person who has overcome a lot. His name is harm a cartoony joining us from Los Angeles on the K. R. M s news line. Just a quick backdrop. Karma was in a very significant series of auto accidents all at once. Legs severely damaged. They said he wouldn't walk again, but he did that. And now he's got a book coming out next month called Getting Back Up. A Story of Resilience, self acceptance and Success. And it's a pleasure having him on the program harm A. As we continue the talk, what are a few ways people can, I guess, reframed trauma or loss So it becomes more of a strength instead of just a debilitating weakness. Thank you. That's a great question. I believe when something tragic like that happened, I had to bury everything else that I had. It was not an option like it was not an option to go back and do gymnastic. They didn't wouldn't want me. They the school just said, You can't come back. It was over. My registration will never be active again, so I think it depends what kind of strategies are going live. I learned early on that have a five minutes funeral for anything bad and move on. I noticed the pattern of people I coach. A lot of people don't notice that they will get hung up on one thing that happened. But you cannot go to the future until you accept your past. But if you hang on to your past, then you're not going to your future. So the dilemma is like no one can help anyone except you yourself within. I was sitting in my bed. I knew what happened to the accident. I was there, and my family friends will sit on a dining table on the left of me. I'm literally sitting there and they will make a comment. I can't believe he was driving fast and the bus hit the bus. And he's like, Brooke, I'm like no guys. That was not the first accident, and no one will even believe me, or they will just create a story. So I learned laying down in bed for 11 months in the living room, and you know, you have to do your everything inside your bed. It's embarrassing. My mom had to do it. I learned that people, even though they love you, they create a story to make themselves feel better. Yeah, no one there just saying things because they're projecting about their feelings. So I learned that I have to accept where I am and I have to become quote unquote. They call it selfish. I have to help myself to get up so I can help others. You can't help anyone if you need help. So I did. At that day, I said, I will be someone new and I will not bring up what happened, and that's why I am still not moving forward. This is exactly why I still don't have money. This is exactly why I cannot have a family or I cannot walk. I'm just going to build something new with us, and you know, it's easy to do that because when you don't have anything else to lose, I laughed at all. So I think applies to people that they're hoping there there's hope, still or relationship. They have a strategy they feel. If there is little hope, it's it's wrong. Hope you will drag your life for too long. I hope it doesn't have to be all positive, so just accept it and move on. And more importantly, don't let anyone put a cap on your future, and I think that's what I did. I just didn't let anyone to tell me what to do. Harm a cartoony is the author of the upcoming book Getting Back Up. A Story of Resilience, Self Acceptance and Success. It's due out in March, actually next month. Harm A. Is it difficult to find tenacity when the world seems really dark? It's very hard to stay positive and be excited and smile when your bills are not paid. When you're not healthy, when you're challenged with a relationship, absolutely. But the question is, this strategy happened to me, and many strategies in the world has happened to many people. So I'm not the first one who got up and did something about it. The question is, how did I do it? But not some people cannot. I will say the environment. I was very blessed that I was able to get on a plane. Obviously we do some difficulties and put some difficulties and fly here and change my environment. I changed it. I started all new. It is important to find out who is going to support you and who's not. And sometimes in journey you just have to move on. And I was able to change that. So it is hard if you're everything is not working towards you. But it is your choice to change it. So I was lucky that I had that choice to move. But again, um, I moved all by myself. 19 year old didn't know anyone. That was one of the best thing I've ever done my life harm A in closing. I've got about one minute left. What would you say to someone who feels like an outcast? You're only outcast because you're not with the right place. I've been outcast all my life in everything I grew up in a town that I was not accepted. My family was not religion all the way to here too. Um, from the leg accident to my work experience is that it's honestly, sometimes can be a good thing because you can shine faster, but it is at cast just because you're not surrounded with the right people. So, um, just change your environment, surround yourself with the better people and you won't feel like that. Do you miss Iran at all? I miss people that were very kind. I miss food and it's a beautiful country. I do not miss the government. I do not miss the limitation I had. I grew up with an extremely difficult, uh, father and challenges that my mom had no rights in Iran and I wanted them to get out. And, um then I brought them so I don't miss those. And again I blocked everything that has happened to me, and I moved on. So I don't miss it because I feel if I go back, I have to undo everything that's happened to me, and I don't miss it. So And I told people I said, I will go back to Iran to visit once I see Bhutan, Japan, China and every part of other part of the world because there's a lot of beauty out there. Once I see everything, maybe I'll go back. But until then, I'm good. Hama, I'm out of time. Thank you very much for your time. And, um, it may be late, but allow me to welcome you to the U. S. I look forward to talking to you again. Thank you very much. You are very welcome again. That's harm a cartoony. He's from Iran now living in Los Angeles. He's recovered from a tremendous auto accident, hit by a bus and then buy a car. They said he would never walk again, but he now walks. And he said if he did walk again, he would come to the United States, which in fact he did and harm. If you're still listening, thank you very much for joining us from Los Angeles. And to think that I was complaining this morning. I was having a connection fit this morning because the battery in my SUV was dead.