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Highlight Clip of The Tim Ferriss Show: Whitney Cummings

From Audio: #84: How to Turn Pain Into Creativity (Whitney Cummings)

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In this snippet, Whitney Cummings talks about her approach to understanding people.
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And I think ultimately, sometimes when we judge other people, it's just a way to not look at ourselves or is a you know, way to feel superior, sanctimonious or whatever. So my trauma therapists said, like every time you meet someone just in your head, say, I love you before you have a conversation with them and that conversation is gonna go a lot better. It was just an interesting little trick for 28 days, which is how long it takes to make a neural pathway a new neural pathway. Um, I would just when I meet someone of my head, whether it's the lady of the D. M V who's making me wait two hours. And essentially, it's just the notion of everybody is doing the best they can with what they have, which is really hard for a lot of us to accept super hard. This is I'm enjoying this because I've been trying to work on a lot of these weaknesses that I have, which fall pretty squarely right into the impatient dick category on very perfectionist, uh, very meticulous in sometimes a helpful, detail oriented way, oftentimes in a like monkish, overbearing way and That's great when you're writing a book yourself. But when all of a sudden you're getting a relationship or have employees, doesn't work or have other people involved in the process, you become, you know, a problem author, which is sort of my label. Uh, they're pros and cons to being a problem author. You get the cover you want. But then you know so and so at. The publisher wants to stab in the face with the pencil repeatedly, and people still use pencils. I'm not sure, you know, I'm really clawing my way through that vocab decaffeinated at the moment, but the two things that very related that really helped me were one always assuming that people are fighting battles you know nothing about, Like everyone's fighting some intense battle internally that you know nothing about something that is a battle for them might be super easy for you, you know, And that's I think my dad said something, really, who is not known for excellent advice. But he said something to me, Um, once that was super helpful because I was having a lot of trouble, Um, in relationships where I felt like I wasn't getting my needs met and, uh, he was like, You just have to understand how strong you come off like people don't think you need anything. So that's why people don't help you. And it was this interesting thing where I was like, Oh, I mean, I have a lot of weaknesses, and I'm bad at a lot of things. But when I'm good at something, which maybe you can relate Thio I'm really good at it because I've just worked really hard at it. So I'm really good at things that a lot of people might not be and vice versa. Eso It's like I'm like, How come you he hasn't finished that book yet? How could he? It's been two days. It's like, Okay, not everyone reads a book or whatever it is, you know, being having compassion for everybody. Yeah, not something that comes naturally to me. At least. It's not that I'm a complete like, apathetic serial killer or whatever. It's um, but the impatience is really pronounced. One of my favorite quotes. One of my favorite people is Katherine Hepburn and in a Philadelphia story, I think it's Cary Grant said you, uh to Katharine Hepburn's character you have no tolerance for human weakness, and I remember that resonating a little bit, which is it's It's easy to rationalize this. I find ways to rationalize why it's acceptable, but you just leave this sort of string of collateral damage. And, uh, the the two things that that brought to mind for me were one e remember somebody told me, You know, if you walk outside and you go about your day and you meet an asshole, that person's an asshole. If you walk outside and everyone you meet is an asshole, your asshole a eso whenever. One of those days where I'm like man, everybody is so ungrateful. There's such assholes like, Well, wait a second now wait a second. I'm common denominator in all these interactions is more my problem. That was exactly so. That was my way of just It's a shortcut, and it's It's a soon as I meet someone in my head. I just say, I love you and and then, yeah, I love you. Can I please get a Diet Coke with it? Whatever. I mean for everybody and tsa exactly my computer, right? I'm getting felt up by the TSA guy, um, you to another
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