Played: February 17, 2021
Antoni visits the Ask Me Another set to chat about his cookbook, the course of his career, and how he booked the Food and Wine Extraordinaire mentor role on Queer Eye. He also plays a game about corgis and absolutely nails a quiz game about books.
Updated Date: Jan 27, 2022
Publish Date: Feb 16, 2021
me, and he was like any He's like, But you're an actor. I was like, Yes, I'm aware he's like But you're comfortable in front of a camera and you love to talk about food. And the thing about teaching these heroes is that you have to keep it sort of like, relatable and accessible. And you're like more of a messenger. He's like, I actually think this is kind of perfect. He was like, All right, let's throw your name into the mix. How fearful or just challenging was the audition process for Queer Eye. It was intimidating. There were chefs like legit chefs who went to culinary school who were there, s o. I fell into the trap of, like, compare and despair. And I'm not them. I'm not going to get it. My mission was, I kept it. A simple is possible. All you can do is present yourself as you truly are, which is kind of what we encourage our heroes to do on the show is like you can only be yourself and be the best version of yourself. But it's true, Easier said than done, Uh, I watch the show and I imagine that when you're going, the heroes are amazing, and obviously they are buying into the entire journey. But you're going in places that probably don't have a really huge queer communities on. How does that feel for you? There's one thing that makes me more uncomfortable than a trump banner, and it's guns being Canadian and just knowing what told they've had on the country. And even that said like that being something that we've seen in the homes of our heroes, do I want to immediately bring that up right off the bat? Yes, but at the same time, if I do that like that's not my job, that's not why I'm there. If I go at it that way, it's gonna be like Walls. We're gonna go up right off the bat. It's more about trying to, like, find the humanity and just figuring out how I can best serve this person's life in the short amount of time that we're together. So I just focus on. I don't come in saying like you need to be better with your diet. I ask questions, and I just try to get us much information as I possibly can, and then we come up with an assessment you wanna eat healthier. Do you want to show up for your family? Do you want to know how to cook for 10 people? Do you want to know how to make a frickin omelet just for yourself? Because you've been eating popcorn. Shaun Van Meter Um hmm, like it's It's different for everybody, right? And so it's It's about figuring out what works for that person. You said that you you keep in touch with some of these people after some of the heroes. I'm very co dependent. So I do get attached because I really love people and I love connecting with people on just having, like, I'm very quality over quantity. I've never been good at cocktail parties. I love intimate dinners, and I really love getting to know a person. And when you get to know somebody over a week and they tell you things that they've maybe never even shared with anybody else before, like yeah, you get attached, it's only human, like it's natural for me, so it's really hard to let go of that. I don't even think I've asked a single person like Are you still cooking or like, are you making the thing that I taught you how to make? It's just more like, How are you? How are you feeling? So you have a cook book coming out in September. Anthony in the kitchen. Eso What's a culinary deal breaker for you? Not that I make them often or ever. Really? The last time I made a hot dog was for the last episode of season one or two of Queer Eye for a Bunch of fireman. But, like, catch up on a hot dogs makes me really uncomfortable because I feel like it should be like, really American French is mustard and sauerkraut on and raw onion Don't soak that. Let it be strong on DSA relish and maybe some toe garage, which is like a nice spicy like a Japanese season with black sesame and just for a little bit of spice. I've gone too far. Okay, Alright, Anti. Are you ready for your Ask me another challenge. I am all right. You know we have choices for you. Okay, So would you like to play a game about books or a game about guacamole? Uh huh. So, with books, I would just like to preface that it's kind of like movies. I'll try to describe it without knowing what the name is. I'm probably gonna fail the books, but I am tired of talking about guac. So let's let's talk about books. All right, I'm gonna regret it's gonna be great. But it's okay, Anthony, you have an amazing T shirt collection. And one of our favorites is a shirt referencing the main characters in a book. A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara. Why did you decide to wear that on the show when we had our mood boards set up with what our styles were going to be like? Everyone had very specific looks. And with mine, they were like, You're the New Yorker of the bunch. We want you to be like James Dean T shirt jeans. Very simple. And so I was like, Okay, like, where am I going to change it up so that I'm literally just not wearing the same white T shirt all the time. And so I decided to bring up things that I was passionate about and things that I liked, and there was a book that I read twice on, but I'm about to read it for the third time because I decided that wasn't painful enough. Um was a little life by Hana. I've never been as affected by a book as I was when I read that one the first time I actually had to put it down for a couple of weeks at a time because it was so difficult to read. And what struck me was not the pain of, you know, one of the main characters of Of Jude. But it was the kindness that his friends showed and how they just sort of kept on showing up for him and loving him when he didn't love himself. And it just makes me think of like friends that I've had, like, the Silver Spoon, because now you guys know who they are, who who showed up for me. It really difficult stages in my life and like different times when I was really struggling with a lot of different things and I was just touched by the humanity of it, and there was another part of the book that I thought was really interesting. The book does deal with fluidity and sort of and sexual preference as sort of something that kind of evolves and changes. And it kind of felt like it was this utopian future where it really didn't matter in the best way possible where it wasn't really treated as an issue. It was like, Okay, you're dating a girl today and you're dating a guy now. Alright, Great. It is what it is. And I really like that, because that's sort of but my path has been like so I really related to the book and I find different parts of me in all four characters of the book, and I just love it. So I decided I wanted to wear a T shirt with the four character names on it, and yeah, uh, that is very long. Answer. No, it's the greatest answer. Because you know what? It would be not great if you were like, Oh, someone told me toe read that book and it's Yeah, exactly know that means something to me, but Okay, so in this game, I'm gonna list the main characters from a book in the style of that T shirt and you're gonna give me the book's title. For example, if we said Jude and J B and will, um, and Malcolm you a little life? Yeah, Exactly. That means I get one. Right? You go. So we think you know all these books. Don't worry. We have hints if you need them. And if you do well enough, listener shoddy Olis. Imbo from Alexandria, Virginia, will win an ask me another Rubik's Cube. Okay, Got it. All right. I was just thinking that I've never successfully completed a Rubik's Cube. You just need a screwdriver. Okay, here's your first one. Elio and Oliver call me by your name. That is correct. Um, it's Ah, Andre on Simon. Right? That's a bonus point. I suppose so. I get three points already. Right? Young men and Pete and flip and fat Man and Skinny Man and Lance and Randy and Jeremy. It's by John Recchi. Oh, my Oh, my gosh. Very dark book. Very interesting about sex workers in the fifties in Times Square where it used to be. It's called City of Night. That is correct. It's a really good