Two doctors sit down to discuss trends they've noticed amongst their patents during the pandemic, regarding marriage, quarantine and managing stress.
Publish Date: Feb 19, 2021
Two doctors sit down to discuss trends they've noticed amongst their patents during the pandemic, regarding marriage, quarantine and managing stress. They advise couples and individuals to seek therapy if they're having a hard time coping with their regular lives.
The other thing I've been talking with couples about is really encouraging them to not make life altering decisions right now, I think, uh, a lot of times what happens is your You can't leave the home and so you're inundated and sitting next to this person 24 7 and normally be able to go to work and have some space. And now there's not this space between you and this, your partner. And there's these small little things that you've always overlooked, that you're starting to not be able to overlook whatever it is, right. Like maybe they bite their fingernails a noisy now, extremely eso. What I've been telling people is, don't make drastic life choices like divorce because of the stay home order. Try to create some purposeful space And what that what? I think that looks like it's just going up to your partner said, Hey, I need to just whether it's for my mental health or whatever. I need to have some space for the next two hours. Can we work that out and then I'll let you take space for two hours, and I think we're so used to space because we live in a We're gone for eight hours, and then we come home and that's the space. We're not getting that now. It's just like I know I said I'd love you till death do us part. But, man, you could get you could get really annoying to me. Uh, I would say that's your partner, because that would just make things worse. Like, have you been finding that people are getting kind of overwhelmed with their relationship? Yeah, Yeah, I think I think I had one client where they were just having a really hard time. And so they're like, they're kind of saying, like, see, you know, this is proof that we were never meant to be. And I'm just like, hold on like, this is pretty unique circumstances, right? Like, how many times does Cove in 19 come through and we have a global pandemic and we're all self quarantine like, Have you ever done this? I've never done this, So I'm a first timer. And I would say there's a failure to give proper credit to the stress and anxiety that self quarantine quarantining has created. And so people are inappropriately attributing it to their partner. You're stressing me out. Your you know, you loaded, you loaded those dishes wrong. Um, what was the post I saw? It was like me and my wife were playing. I will. I wouldn't do it that way. Game and no one's winning e thought that was good. Uh, but I think it's important for people to keep in mind that kind of the background stress that that self quarantining is creating because I've had clients will say It's so eerie going outside and no, you know, there's no cars on the freeway. The shelves are empty of the grocery store. Everyone's wearing mask. It feels very surreal. It feels very eerie and very anxiety provoking. And if you have, if you are a person who is immuno suppressed or you have a loved one who's immuno suppressed, that's just another layer of anxiety and worry to this whole thing. Especially when you're considering that you're completely out of your norm and you can't go connect with people that you would normally connect with. So we're in pretty bizarre circumstances, E. I think that's having a pretty wide scale mental health impact. Um, so I I find it, I find it useful that a lot of clients are accessing telehealth, although not everyone stuck with me to make the transition to telehealth, which is unfortunate. But I mean, there's a plethora of services. And so I think people need to seek out services more now than ever because this is pretty unprecedented times and it does have a pretty massive has a pretty significant mental health impact on couples and families and individuals.