Leader Manager Coach Podcast

Stories Over Stigma With Coach P. Joanne P. McCallie is an established basketball coach, author, and mental health advocate. With over 600 victories under her belt and winning The National Coach of the Year in 2005 along with her lifetime of experience dealing with her own bipolar disorder, Coach P is perfectly placed to offer wisdom on continuing to achieve success while simultaneously supporting ones own mental health. Rob asks her about her life experiences and how she encourages and educates individuals and organisations on mental health issues, coaching, sports success and leadership.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Coach P is a coach by accident. She was in sales but didn’t enjoy it and returned to Graduate School to learn about coaching and became the youngest head coach in the country.
At 30 years old Coach P was diagnosed with Manic Depression, now called Bipolar Disorder. In her late 20’s as a new mother and burgeoning coach she had her first manic episode, completely with no warning.
A manic episode projects energy and enthusiasm so can go unnoticed in a sport setting. At home is a different story, however, with insomnia, stress, hyper activity as the displaying symptoms which eventually causes a nervous breakdown and Coach P was admitted to a mental health facility.
Even though there were only three episodes, bipolar disorder has framed Coach P’s life so she wrote the book ‘The Secret Warrior’ to share her experiences to honour the loss of two of her players to cancer and suicide.
Mental health is a word to be celebrated. Mental health impairment should be respected and understood.

BEST MOMENTS
‘As an example of somebody who has been through mental health episodes in my life and diagnosed, I’m trying to do my best to continue to coach and be Coach P for life, and use my coaching skills to help people across the world.’ – Coach P
‘There’s a little bit of a bias towards males because there’s a thing that men don’t open up so much, are not so good at opening up as the ladies about things. So its a real hot topic and its not going away.’ – Rob
‘I was not too great of a patient. I rejected help a lot. I was trying to take my meds, denied taking my medicine, didn’t want to take my medicine and as an athlete could not believe that my body, my mind.. I was a division one scholarship athlete. How dare! It could never be the case that something was wrong.’ – Coach P
‘I was advised against this. Immediately said ‘when you share this you’re done.’ And so when I heard that I said ‘ok, I’m gonna keep coaching’, got recruited to Duke.’ – Coach P
‘Your players are not supposed to die before you. Your children are not supposed to pass before you. In April I’m in a church at Staceys funeral who died of breast cancer.’ – Coach P
‘When they are asked ‘what do you miss’ they say exactly the same as you..the banter, the craic, the laughs, the jokes and every professional footballer in this country all they want back is to be able to go back to the dressing room and have that culture.’ - Rob

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ABOUT THE GUEST JOANNE P. McCALLIE
Coach P is an Author, Speaker, Mental Health Advocate and Hall of Fame DI basketball coach. With over 600 wins, she has coached at Maine, Michigan State, and Duke, earning National Coach of the Year in 2005.
Coach P was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder at age 30. After learning how to manage her mental health and continue winning as a coach, she decided to become a mental health advocate and speaker, sharing her story to inspire others to celebrate and support their brain health.
Using the recurring theme of "faith over fear" to reduce the stigma associated with impaired mental health and encouraging those suffering from mental health issues to reach out-to coaches, student-athletes, and to all people across the world, Coach P offers real direction, experiences, and personal stories to teach and reassure those adversely affected by the dynamics of the mind and body experience.
She is the author of ‘The Secret Warrior’ telling the story of 28 years as head coach for University of Maine, Michigan State, and Duke University, and while winning repeated conference championships and advancing to the Finals of the National Championship, hiding her bipolar diagnosis for 25 of those years.
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One More Piece in the Mosaic This episode is inspired once more by the great mind and work of Henri Nouwen, theologian and philosopher and expert on the expression and motivation of humanity. Rob offers practical steps in Henri’s literature that can help you not only in your leadership role but in your life in general.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Make sure you know who your mentors, counsellors and guides are. Choose them carefully.
Your area of focus will bear fruit eventually, despite periods of darkness.
Recognise fully your weaknesses, do not deny them.
Remember, we cannot achieve our goals alone. It’s all about the community that creates success, we can only be the driver.
We have to rest, recover and rejuvenate and have other things in our life that recharge us.
Trust in the power of patience. We do not know when our consistent effort will bloom.

BEST MOMENTS

‘This is not about you having to go out and spend thousands of pounds on a coach or a mentor or anyone in particular. It can be somebody you love, somebody that you know or it can be a professional association.’
‘Pushing things further down just delays the inevitable and makes the volcanic eruption even greater.’
‘Wine is produced through crushing grapes. You cannot keep hold of the grape and have beautiful wine. You cannot maintain six perfect eggs and have an omelette.’
‘With the era that we live in with social media and communication it’s as if everything else and everybody else is succeeding at a hundred miles an hour, and little old us, little old me, little old you are sitting there going through the same daily grind but nobody else is.’ Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/robrylesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The First 100 Days : Episode 1 : The Month Before Day 1 The first of a ten part series based on a book by Phil Denton and Micky Mellon, ‘The First 100 Days ; Lessons In Leadership From The Football Bosses.’ They will donate all proceeds to the Len Johnrose Trust which will help in the fight against motor neurone disease and that’s a good enough reason to buy this book. It is, however, a brilliant book jam packed with wisdom on the art of management and Rob is going to introduce you to it over the next ten episodes.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

This book journals the journey from being offered the job as a head football manager all the way through the first 100 days. The first chapter is detailing the month before you start.
This is the time you have to do your homework. You’ve got the job. If you let yourself get over excited you’ll trip up, so make sure you are in possession of the knowledge you need to navigate this new venture. Create a clear strategy.
Manage your expectations and agreements with the people you are working with by creating a written structure setting out reasonable goals and how you are going to achieve them.

BEST MOMENTS

‘Its almost a ‘How to’ survive those 100 days and go on and be successful. Its almost a recipe for creating success if ever there was such a thing.’
‘You are now in possession of a completely insecure job. It will probably last 18 months or less.’
‘If you wait until you’re in the job you’ll be overwhelmed, you’ll have lost two to three matches, it’ll all be over.’

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ABOUT THE HOST

Rob Ryles is a UEFA A licensed coach with a League Managers Association qualification and a science and medicine background. He has worked in the football industry in Europe, USA and Africa; at International, Premiership, League, Non-League and grassroots levels with both World Cup and European Championship experience
Rob Ryles prides himself on having a forward thinking and progressive approach to the game built through his own experience as well as lessons learned from a number of highly successful managers and coaches.
The Leader Manager Coach Podcast is where we take a deep dive examining knowledge, philosophies, wisdom and insight to help you lead, manage and coach in football, sport and life.

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You Are Enough Rob continues to share the lessons of Henri Nouwen, the great philosopher, teacher and theologian from the last century. His books are a treasure trove of wisdoms that can help you in your leadership role.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

There is nothing to fear and the days of ruling by fear are gone. Show by example and don’t let fear rule you or your colleagues.
Dare to be different and unique in your management style. Your players or team will all be different too. Celebrate those differences.
Teach your people that the answer to what they are looking for lies within them. It is their effort and journey and as a leader you are there to guide them, not achieve for them.
People make mistakes. Mistakes are part of progress. Don’t dwell, learn and continue.
There will be pain, defeats, wounds, and disappointment. Learn to live alongside those things. Have patience.
Teach people to be grateful for their strengths. Encourage, cultivate, showcase, present and reinforce the strengths in your people.
Choose responsibility. There will always be an easy path but be aware that the higher path will give better experience and rewards.
When listening, be fully present. Engage with people by eye contact, encouragement and show interest fully. Be available for people.
There is no such thing as a ‘little problem’. Details make all the difference between average and great. Incremental problem solving is part of training and success.
Learn. Learning is a job that is never over. Never stop.
Be open to help and support. Allow yourself to receive. Make sure that you have support and inspiration from those around you.

BEST MOMENTS

‘You are going to be criticised. The higher you put yourself up, the higher you stick your head over the parapet, the more people are going to have an opinion.’
‘Remind yourself that failure is ok. You just have to pick yourself up and learn to deal with it and get on with it.’
‘It’s teaching by example that is the journey. It’s falling in love with this part of the process. Yes, we’re on a journey. Yes, we have a vision. Yes, we are looking for the sunshine, we are looking for that plateau and, of course, we are looking to move on.’
‘To be able to be in a quiet space, fully present and aware and available for somebody is a rare talent and a rare skill. People will walk over hot coals for it. If you can create that in your organisation, in your family, in your business, you will have an amazing, amazing asset that will yield results beyond what you can imagine.’

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Leader Manager Coach Podcast

ABOUT THE HOST

Rob Ryles is a UEFA A licensed coach with a League Managers Association qualification and a science and medicine background. He has worked in the football industry in Europe, USA and Africa; at International, Premiership, League, Non-League and grassroots levels with both World Cup and European Championship experience
Rob Ryles prides himself on having a forward thinking and progressive approach to the game built through his own experience as well as lessons learned from a number of highly successful managers and coaches.
The Leader Manager Coach Podcast is where we take a deep dive examining knowledge, philosophies, wisdom and insight to help you lead, manage and coach in football, sport and life.

CONTACT METHOD
https://www.robryles.co.uk/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MMPYDVzZVnA
https://www.linkedin.com/in/robertryles/?originalSubdomain=uk
Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/robrylesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Koach Karl. Oh, for a childhood! All the way from California, Rob interviews Koach Karl Dewazien, a well known coach and celebrated author of the world famous ‘FUNdamental Soccer’ series of books, a cornerstone for all youth based and small sided games. Highly educated and informed in his field, Koach Karl is the go-to professional for all things youth soccer.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Karls choice of career stems from his childhood as the son of a Polish mother, a nazi concentration camp survivor and a Lithuanian farmer father, captured by the Russians and the Nazis. He does not have a memory of his childhood, thus his impetus to provide children with a fulfilled, enjoyable youth. Aided by teachers and coaches Karl escaped a troubled youth and got successfully involved with sports.
Sport holds lessons about responsibility that both Rob and Karl have experienced. Karl has played all the American sports, football, baseball, basketball and track and got a scholarship to Fresno Pacific as a soccer player.
Karls first memory is of his father weeping on board a battleship from Germany to New York as he arrived with the Statue of Liberty behind him.
Karl has written many soccer manuals on how to coach children in football including ‘FUNdamental Soccer’ and ‘Miles and Miles of Soccer Smiles’, co wrote with special needs children in mind.
Unless a child is allowed to practice, experiment and fail, there will be no innovation or development in sport. Karls coaching methods allow for children to express themselves in a less controlled, more fun manner.

BEST MOMENTS

‘My wife calls me an ‘over worker’. It seems that all I do is try to focus on the children.’ – Karl
‘I don’t know if the English know what a punk is, but it’s a teenager who’s totally lost. Has no idea what to do with his life. I ended up being arrested quite a few times and, quite honestly, if it hadn’t of been for sports I think I would have either ended up in jail, or as a very young dead individual.’ – Karl
‘What you just said is littered with life lessons. The adversity that you suffered as a child, never mind your parents. Wow. The thing about sport, particularly for young men..’ - Rob
‘I’m not sure if you’re going to believe me, but my earliest memory is where my parents had tried for the United States to come here thirteen times.’ - Karl
‘Where do the best players come from in all sports? It’s the kids that aren’t being organised who come up with the unique way of running the sport just a little bit different. There’s no one way of hitting a tennis ball or throwing a basketball or kicking a soccer ball.’ – Karl
‘Here in the United States we’ve got child obesity. Children that are overweight. Well why are they overweight? Fast food that they eat, parents don’t watch their diet. Anything that we can do to make sure the kid feels happy, we do for them.’ - Karl

ABOUT THE GUEST
After a playing and coaching career that helped lay the foundation for the storied Fresno Pacific University Men’s Soccer program, Koach Karl Dewazien has gone on to become a household name in the world of soccer.
As a player he scored 21 career goals, graduating as the program’s all-time leading scorer, and distinguished himself as a team leader. His leadership was so trusted that he was actually named head coach of the team prior to his senior season. After serving as player-coach for one year, he held the position for four more seasons before moving on to become one of the major pioneers of the sport in the United States.
His Soccer education includes: United States Soccer Federation “A” License #28, West German “A” License course, Holland (English) Coaching course, FIFA Coaching Academies (by invitation), Canadian National Staff Coaching course, and many more throughout the U.S. and Europe.
Karl served as the California Youth Soccer Association State Director of Coaching from 1978 to 2012. He is considered the Pioneer of West Coast Soccer Camps and has been a clinician for thousands of coaches throughout the U.S.
A well-published author, he has been a contributor to every major soccer publication in the U.S. and is a featured speaker at State, National, and International events. His “Modified Laws of the Game” for youth players, used by the U.S. Youth Soccer Association, has become the standard throughout the U.S. and Canada.
Koach Karl is the author and publisher of the world-famous “FUNdamental

Our Brothers and Sisters in Ukraine. Lessons In Ego and Why We Are All One. The situation in Ukraine is on all of our minds at the moment and Rob takes a look at how it is a life lesson for all of us and how we should be answering the questions that a crisis like this presents.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

It’s at times like this that we question what’s important in life. How important is football now?
How many of us would make the effort to open our homes up to people we don’t know? People are making real sacrifices. Football has a history of charitable support. That is the way forward.
There are lessons to be learnt about power and ego from the past and currently, one of which is to front and deal with a problem before it becomes unmanageable.

BEST MOMENTS

‘What should we do? Just stop playing? Close the leagues down or go home and wonder how we can help the Ukrainians? I’m not sure that’s gonna work. I’m not sure its possible.’
‘I have to say I’ve watched the news most days for a short period of time and to see German people at an airport holding placards up saying ‘one room, two rooms, three rooms’ they can take one person, two people, three people or a family for free for as long as is necessary. That is humanity.’
‘Be assertive. Draw the line. Know what you’ll accept. Tell somebody what you’ll accept and don’t let them step over it.’

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ABOUT THE HOST

Rob Ryles is a UEFA A licensed coach with a League Managers Association qualification and a science and medicine background. He has worked in the football industry in Europe, USA and Africa; at International, Premiership, League, Non-League and grassroots levels with both World Cup and European Championship experience
Rob Ryles prides himself on having a forward thinking and progressive approach to the game built through his own experience as well as lessons learned from a number of highly successful managers and coaches.
The Leader Manager Coach Podcast is where we take a deep dive examining knowledge, philosophies, wisdom and insight to help you lead, manage and coach in football, sport and life.

CONTACT METHOD
https://www.robryles.co.uk/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MMPYDVzZVnA
https://www.linkedin.com/in/robertryles/?originalSubdomain=uk
Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/robrylesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If Your Path Demands You Walk Through Hell... Rob shares some life lessons for this episode including thwarted goals, other peoples stories, perception and perfection and self acceptance, stalwart attitude and positive language.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Things always take longer than you think. Frustrations and setbacks make clear our vulnerability and increase our humility. Remember, concentrate on what is within your control and do not waste energy or worry on those you cannot.
Learn from other peoples enriching experiences by listening to their stories. In this way you can gain perspective. It’s easy in the current world to assume, especially with social media misinformation, that the rest of the world is perfect except for our little bit of it. Do not edit your life to make it appear perfect. Accept yourself.
The longer you cling on to that rock when you should be letting go and going with the flow, take on that difficult task, have that awkward conversation, the more stuck you will be.
Do not underestimate the power of language. Positive language actually helps you live longer while communicating better. A good attitude is priceless.

BEST MOMENTS

‘It seems to me that in the past few weeks and months that every single thing that I’ve had a go at has been thwarted. Goals I’ve set, dates I’ve set, things I wanted to achieve, people I wanted to contact. Problems here, things arising that you couldn’t see. I’ve had to swallow a bit of my own medicine.’
‘There are people out there, people you admire, people you look up to, people you want to be like, and everybody else, are succeeding, They’ve got this, they’ve got that, the job, the career, the ‘life path’, whatever it is. It’s only little old you that are struggling along and getting knock backs, illnesses, financial issues, career issues that are thwarting us. Let me tell you it is a fallacy.’
‘A beautiful statement from Henri Nouwen. “Better to cry than to worry”. What a beautiful statement. What does the world say to us when we’ve got a problem? “Oh don’t cry”. What do your loved ones say to you? “Oh don’t cry”. Rubbish!! Absolute piffle!! Don’t worry. Cry.’

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ABOUT THE HOST

Rob Ryles is a UEFA A licensed coach with a League Managers Association qualification and a science and medicine background. He has worked in the football industry in Europe, USA and Africa; at International, Premiership, League, Non-League and grassroots levels with both World Cup and European Championship experience
Rob Ryles prides himself on having a forward thinking and progressive approach to the game built through his own experience as well as lessons learned from a number of highly successful managers and coaches.
The Leader Manager Coach Podcast is where we take a deep dive examining knowledge, philosophies, wisdom and insight to help you lead, manage and coach in football, sport and life.

CONTACT METHOD
https://www.robryles.co.uk/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MMPYDVzZVnA
https://www.linkedin.com/in/robertryles/?originalSubdomain=uk
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Welcoming In. Allowing Loss. Rob relates some fantastic wisdom from the renowned Henri Nouwen, a psychology, social justice, spirituality and community driven philosopher. He has great ideas on team building including welcoming people to a warm, expressive and comfortable community where they can feel free to create their best work.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Rob refers back to a previous episode to demonstrate how he is still learning and being reminded to apply the principles he believes in.
Look to create a special inner community. You need people different to you in attitude, philosophy, knowledge and thought process so you can tackle the biggest number of situations with the widest variety of solutions.
Welcome in people, their ideas and skills warmly.
You cannot know the full impact your words will have in the future. Consider your words carefully and be aware that you may forget what others will remember forever.
Accept the ups and downs. Don’t dwell on difficulties.
Create a home for you and your people in which they can freely work and feel comfortable. Include rest and recuperation.

BEST MOMENTS

‘Catherine’s (Mattiske) message is often that we speak in our own language, and we take in information in a preferred way ourselves, and we give it out in a preferred way, and we miss so many opportunities by doing that.’
‘We don’t want to have a team of people that’s all the same as us. It’s no good having a team of Sir Alex Fergusons. There can only be one Alex Ferguson.’
‘If your path of life takes you through hell, make sure you walk it as if you own the place.’
‘You are trying to facilitate freedom in people so they can be free to do what they are best at, act in their best way possible, so they don’t feel restricted.’
‘I was trying to set up international zoom calls in different time zones and I got myself all wound up and stressed out because I was sending out invitations to different people in different time zones. In all honesty it was a bit of an embarrassment. I didn’t try to defend myself, I didn’t make excuses. I just said, hey look, I’m really sorry I messed up, can we try again? Be vulnerable.’

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Leader Manager Coach Podcast

ABOUT THE HOST

Rob Ryles is a UEFA A licensed coach with a League Managers Association qualification and a science and medicine background. He has worked in the football industry in Europe, USA and Africa; at International, Premiership, League, Non-League and grassroots levels with both World Cup and European Championship experience
Rob Ryles prides himself on having a forward thinking and progressive approach to the game built through his own experience as well as lessons learned from a number of highly successful managers and coaches.
The Leader Manager Coach Podcast is where we take a deep dive examining knowledge, philosophies, wisdom and insight to help you lead, manage and coach in football, sport and life.

CONTACT METHOD
https://www.robryles.co.uk/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MMPYDVzZVnA
https://www.linkedin.com/in/robertryles/?originalSubdomain=uk
Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/robrylesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Realism, Competition And The Success Failure Syndrome Speaking from a beautiful spot in the Peak District, Rob discusses his thoughts on competition, in regards to success and failure, rest, relief of stress and defining what success is in your life. At what point should realism take over from constant positivity and how can we deal with the negative affects of failure and the confusing nature of success?

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Rob draws from Ryan Holidays’ philosophy of stoicism to demonstrate the brutal reality of life, and how constant positivity can become forced and tiring. Being ultra positive can be a negative.
Things will take much longer to achieve than you originally think. If you look back at your own life, and consult those who have achieved what they aimed for, you will find it came with unforeseen struggles and tenacity.
This constant ‘snakes and ladders’ journey can end in exhaustion and disillusionment. Competition, especially in this modern world of social media, can grind your team down. Support them with good rest periods and rewards to avoid burnout.
Have faith and belief in your people. Your support is invaluable and result in you living beyond the success/failure syndrome.

BEST MOMENTS

‘Sometimes its just one thing that resonates with you, that changes the whole perspective. It’s often just one piece of a jigsaw that we’re missing.’
‘Your prize for solving a big problem is another one of greater magnitude. Now lets put that into perspective.’
‘Let’s understand that life is tough, life is hard, life is challenging and there are things that are going to go differently than we think and perceive.’
‘You have to believe in people, and that means living beyond the success failure syndrome. Let’s make sure we are not like this, bearing in mind that at the top level, at the elite level, there is success and failure.’

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Leader Manager Coach Podcast

ABOUT THE HOST

Rob Ryles is a UEFA A licensed coach with a League Managers Association qualification and a science and medicine background. He has worked in the football industry in Europe, USA and Africa; at International, Premiership, League, Non-League and grassroots levels with both World Cup and European Championship experience
Rob Ryles prides himself on having a forward thinking and progressive approach to the game built through his own experience as well as lessons learned from a number of highly successful managers and coaches.
The Leader Manager Coach Podcast is where we take a deep dive examining knowledge, philosophies, wisdom and insight to help you lead, manage and coach in football, sport and life.

CONTACT METHOD
https://www.robryles.co.uk/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MMPYDVzZVnA
https://www.linkedin.com/in/robertryles/?originalSubdomain=uk
Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/robrylesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.